Recently I completed the 100 happy days challenge – taking a photo every day for 100 days of something that made me happy/a happy moment.
I loved the concept behind this challenge because focusing on the positive and the happy moments in life is something that I always strive to do. I believe that too many people are dragged down by focusing on the negative aspects of their day. The bad traffic on their way to work. That their favourite sandwich was sold out at lunch time. That they accidentally overcooked their dinner and the steak was a little tough. These things can build up if we allow them to, if we keep a running tally of the negative happenings in our day to day lives in order to produce a list to prove to others just how bad a day we’ve really had. The bad things are always easy to spot, and the more we look for them, the more we can find. But why do that? Does it make you feel good? Does it deliver any benefits to you?
What if, instead, you put effort into looking for the positive things? The bird singing beautifully in the tree above you as you walk along the footpath? The driver who let you into their lane when you needed to get across? The laugh you had with a co-worker at work that has turned into a little in-joke?
Out of the 100 days over which I took part in this challenge, there were days when happy moments jumped up, grabbed my face between their two warm hands and gave me a great big smacking kiss on the lips! There were other, fewer days when those happy moments were hiding in the next room and I had to go and actively seek them out. There was even one day – one single day – where I honestly could not find any happiness in my day at all, no matter how much I searched for it. I didn’t hide from that fact. I didn’t fake happiness. The truth is, life isn’t always happy, even if you are blessed by being gainfully employed in a first world country and in very good health… But, I do believe that it can be mostly happy, in those circumstances.
The point is, you can, to a degree, choose your reality. Although I’m a positive and happy person by nature, I also put effort into being positive and happy. I choose to look on the bright side, to identify the little things in my day that make me smile or feel good. I make a conscious effort to see those things and to appreciate them and the more I do it, the more of those things I see and the happier I am.
Why don’t you give it a go? The challenge is a great way of going about it :)